That’s exactly the distinction. Consumerist living comes from high level integration and highest levels of industrialization. Pins worth half a penny manufactured in dies worth tens of thousands of dollars, cycled in presses worth far more, then sent on trans oceanic voyages. If you aim to duplicate that kind of refinement independent of the system you will always lose, costs will be too high in some way. Also the integrated manufacturing process society isn’t the model to follow. Yes, it’s more “efficient”, whatever that means. Look at antique farm equipment, often made to run for decades with simple greasing, and blacksmith repairable parts.
But what are we aiming for as individuals? A warm, safe house, preferably paid for as it’s built, a supportive and stable community, a secure supply of trustworthy food. Electric lighting, hot and cold running water, and enough power to wash clothes, pump water, perhaps electric welding and power tools.
Our commodity culture leaves people in flux, in destroyed anonymous communities. Our food system is corrupt insecure and questionable. People pour their working lives into paying the debt of their house and the vehicles they need to drive to work.
Our lives can be greatly simplified and probably end up with higher quality and greater individual benefit. I am amazed with how corporate values have become societal values. People aim for a life of leisure, idolizing the lives of the rich. In the world of our grandparents people were judged positively on how much they worked. So it’s not surprising that urban people trying to go back to the land will be disappointed (and their peers won’t approve). They’ve bought into a whole bill of goods that leaves many materially rich but emotionally cheated, and without a frame of reference to understand.